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Review: Lavender House
Title: Lavender House
Author: Lev AC Rosen
Published: 2022
Summary: The year is 1952, and Andy is a recently disgraced investigator on the San Francisco police force. Despite the rollicking local queer scene, Andy has never been able to be out and proud, and instead used his insider knowledge to avoid the clubs getting busted by his colleagues. His secret finally catches up to him, so he decides to get drunk enough to throw himself into the bay when he is approached by a woman named Pearl. Pearl knows his secret and wants to hire him to investigate the death of her wife, Irene.
What I Liked:
- When talking about this book, I described it as a “gay murder mystery.” Several times, I got asked if the detective was gay or if the suspects were gay. The answer is: both. Almost every single person in the entire book is queer, which is the opposite of tokenism and I am here for it.
- The ending was absolutely perfect. I won’t spoil it, but I felt it wrapped up the themes in a satisfying way.
- I am against what I call “copaganda,” or the insistence on painting the police as heroes in fiction. Despite the main character being a former police detective, he is regularly forced to confront the evils of the system he upheld, and I really appreciated that.
What I Didn’t Like:
- The only thing I didn’t like was the inclusion of some hate-crimey violence. It was very explicit and felt unnecessary, a harsh reality that intruded on an otherwise relatively cozy story.
Rating: 4/5.
I’m not rating it a full 5 stars because it isn’t one of my favorite books of all time, but it is extremely solid, and queer people who like murder mysteries better than I do should definitely pick it up.
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Self Care as Bowling Bumpers
The other day in therapy I came across a metaphor.
Doing self care (like eating regularly, staying hydrated, taking your meds on time, and resting) is like having the bumpers up when you’re bowling. If you go off course and bounce a little, it’s not a big deal.
I used to wait so long to eat that I was incapable of preparing something, so I would sit on the kitchen floor and cry until someone came across me and rescued me by making me a sandwich.
Now, if I wait a little too long to eat, the rest of my self care shores me up and I am capable of making myself something (or asking for help).
Doing the absolute most to take care of yourself will pay off in the moments that you falter.
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Untitled (11/17/22)
every day is another pill.
i collect them in a jar,
until it’s overflowing.every day is another step
in the snow. i can barely see
the house where i started.inside my chest, my joy
stretches and yawns
and gets comfortable. -
my dad
near bedtime, very often and for years now, i get this unnameable WANT
it’s not h*rny of any variety and it’s not chocolate (which is what i always try first lol) (because it’s what my ex would feed me every time i had a ptsd nightmare)
but i think i figured it out? i think it’s cinnamon sugar toast, which my dad would make for me when I couldn’t sleep.
when i was a kid my dad was a really bad insomniac, getting about 30 minutes of sleep a night, and so if i wandered out of my shared bedroom in our tiny house he would be there in the garage, chainsmoking and watching cartoons.
(there are certain key phrases, ive found, that can activate even non-caretaking types into caretaking mode. for my dad, it’s “I can’t sleep.”)
he insisted, at all times of day, that the worst thing you could do for insomnia was lay around. he advocated for flipping your pillow and switching your head to the other end of the bed, and if that didn’t work, he would say the next step is to get out of bed and do something to tire yourself out.
when i whined “dad, I can’t sleep!” he would jump into action, using his rusty diner prep cook skills to make perfect toast with margarine (always margarine in our house). i would grab my star trek novel collection, which was a fat purple book with transcriptions of the episodes. i would read and munch until i was frankly bored to tears by the blow by blow account of the episode Charlie X, and i would then go to bed and finally be able to sleep.
as i transition, i think more and more about what it means to be a man, and what it meant and means to my dad. i wonder if we all become our parents in the end, and which parent I’m going to end up as. i think a lot about laying in bed at age 12 wishing for a “sex change” and then deciding i was going to stop thinking about it because there was no way my parents could afford it. i think about age 9 begging to be allowed to shave my head, and my dad saying he doesn’t want to look at anyone’s knobbly scalp, regardless of gender. i think a lot about how my mom insists she doesn’t snore.
when people have emotions around my dad, he is instantly bewildered. you can see it in the way his eyes widen into circles. he wants to fix you like you’re leaking oil. sometimes this comes in the form of an explosion, the impulse to beat you back into line. other times he is practically begging you to stop. but no matter what, he is absolutely appalled by any show of feeling.
im not like that, am i? when people have emotions around me, do i just wish for it to stop? am i a safe person to cry to? am i a safe person to slam doors around? do i laugh and joke and do a little jig to avoid anything, anything that might smack of strife?
i am my dad, but shorter. i am my dad but ive been r*ped. i am my dad but with the knowledge that my perspective isn’t always the truth. i am just a man, with hands.
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this = reality
i. i found it washing dishes after sharing supper. i am not a biographer. i am not a biographer. i am just a man, with hands. the kind that put themselves to work tearing trinkets off my skin. i am just a man, with skin. i have visions of future kitchens, warm and full. ii. this is socks in bed and a lazy eye. this is the alchemy of the interrogative. this is every millimeter of eyelashes and the seashell curl of a lip. this is pouring jaegermeister and three day warm cider into cheap sweet wine and sharing it. this is a dropout genius allotting 25 IQ points to crime at all times. this is warm skin and depth perception. this is knowing death in your cells, and with your hands, and on your mouth. this is cutting potatoes in your palm. this is an obsession with neurochemistry. this is nightmares. iii. what is in the folds of your brain is not belly button lint. what leaks out of you is not shameful. you are not a wide-eyed deer. you are not a place to plant a flag. you are not a work horse. learn what it feels like. you exist. you exist. you exist. -
Mother
i. fifteen months my brother, head too wide for thin hips, had been extracted with a scalpel. the new nurse pressed the afterbirth out of her belly and she screamed. i screamed longer. ii. eight years i smoothed my brother's hair while i held him alone on grandmother's stained couch and told him mom wasn't dead, just blown up like a red balloon, tongue swollen into silence. i thought i was lying. iii. sixteen years when she couldn't carry her own spine, i held her purse and followed her rented scooter through the grocery store. she backed beeping into the fresh pie display and, jointly splashed with raspberries, we exploded in laughter. iv. twenty-one years bracing one foot against the porcelain, i fished my mother out of the bathtub when she had taken one pill too many and her blood had split apart. she was coated in spilled shampoo but i tucked her into bed and talked to her about the attractive weatherman on channel thirteen news, until she asked to be helped outside for a cigarette.
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Losing Teeth
In the naked bulb light, your shielding shoulder doesn't hide your reflection's study of its teeth, apprehensive, the close-clinging film a death sentence and now whimsically, your flowered hair like seaweed over my upturned face, brushing the blanket copper-stained & electric, & your voice oakly shadowed and plastic like you practice & my mouth is too stuffed to say what I want, so instead I offer a smile and the fishing hook in my lip and a wish that you hadn't asked me to be your doll, fluffed by petticoats and beestung lips, to be kept in the living room, in the dentist's chair
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Morning
i was told a bedtime story-- a boy had a shotgun and saw a crow and the crow was gone in a puff of feathers and a tiny crack. anyone's eyes on me and i am gone, same as the crow. i am an unholy pinocchio and my pine would charcoal in the sun. i was not drawn with an outline. my molecules are safer in the dark, when the atmosphere presses heavy on my clothes to keep me in.
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Faint
with my veins churning into vials, someone else's family is leaning over me hiding me from the nurse's needle --my vision balloons, filling empty space with the sterile blue curtain cliff and the grandmother is telling me that my hair looks like lake ice, like blackberries, like her dead daughter's dishes and the grandfather turns to me, dirge-tempo, (i have been told that his cells are eating him but he is doing alright) and he stuffs my eye sockets with gauze
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